Monday, March 28, 2011

2 Tigers Vs Rhino !?

There is NO reason to breed tigers (or any other big cat) for lives of confinement and deprivation. The only sanctioned international breeding plans for exotic cats are called Species Survival Plans (SSP) and they are ONLY carried out in accredited zoos.

Ron Tilson, director of conservation at the Minnesota Zoo and coordinator of the American Zoo and Aquarium Association’s captive breeding program for tigers says, “For private owners to say, ‘We’re saving tigers,’ is a lie,†Tilson says. “They are not saving tigers; they’re breeding them for profit.â€

Tilson says the exotic animal market is a multimillion dollar industry, ranking just below the illegal drug trade and just above the illegal gun market.

Tilson says tigers are the most charismatic animal on earth. Their appeal is universal. “They are the alpha predator who used to kill and eat us,†he says. “We cannot help but be in awe of their power and grace. Tigers represent everything fine and decent and powerful. Everything those people would like to be. It’s all an ego trip—big guns, big trucks, and big tigers.â€

Does Captive Breeding Save Animals From Extinction?

None of the captive breeding of exotic cats is doing anything to save them in the wild. The wild cats in private hands mostly came as zoo surplus and were sold out the back door with no records or pedigrees. Read Alan Green's book, Animal Underworld to see some of the major zoos who were caught doing this. It still happens today.

Those animals were then bred indiscriminately, and many purposely inbred for traits such as white coats, tiny size, and docile (read retarded) temperament. None of the exotic cats in wild hands can be traced back to the wild, other than local cats, cougars and bobcats, who may have been snatched from the wild in the U.S. For that reason they can never be bred for introduction back to the wild.

First, no such programs exist and even if by some act of God all human settlements were wiped out of some vast area and it became suitable for wildlife again, these captive bred cats could never survive. The reason is that their instincts are geographical and a perfect example was an attempt at repopulating the now extinct TX ocelot.

The AZA (American Zoological Association) zoos got together and took captive bred ocelots and released them in TX. The problem was that none of the cats in zoos had come from TX originally because the ocelots in TX had been extinct for a long time. Instead, they had all come from cats who were taken from the wilds of Central America long ago. In Central America ocelots eat snakes because most of them are non venomous. When the zoo bred ocelots were turned loose in TX they reverted to their ancient instincts in search of food and sought out snakes, but the TX snakes were mostly rattlesnakes and the ocelot program died out in a matter of weeks.

There are other reasons, in the real world, why it doesn't work, which includes the fact that human - big cat conflict is one of the main reasons cats are wiped out of areas. Captive breeding not only selectively chooses animals that are least fit for the wild but also conditions the cats to not fear humans. That increases the conflict and the result is that not only would the offending cat be killed, but likely any wild cat seen in the area would be hunted down and killed in a case of mistaken identity. That escalates the extinction of cats in the wild.

Last, but maybe most important is, if you can pay to see wild cats on your terms (ie: cheaply, in a cage, or being forced to let you touch them and have your photo with them or their young) then you aren't learning anything about who these animals really are. You aren't learning about how they fit into a complex environment when they are housed in a situation that does not duplicate all of the web of life that they are a part of in the wild. All wild cats roam territories that are calculated in miles, not square feet. To know anything about them, you have to see who they are in their real environment.

Conservation is a very complex issue and captive settings cannot duplicate it, so the important work of saving entire eco systems is not taught and not done in a captive setting. What's worse is that lip service is paid to these worthy objectives and when you pay to see captive wildlife you walk away thinking you did something good when in fact you contributed to the problem. You paid to see a cat in a cage. You made sure that industry continues to breed and exploit more cats. You did not pay to save the wild and all of the wonderous and magnifient creatures who call it home. You put another nail in the coffin for the planet.

Big Cats Make Bad Pets

This is the most frequent email we get from exotic cat owners: "Hey, I'm really in over my head here! I got this thing as an infant. I bottle-raised it. Everything was great. But I can no longer handle this cat. I cannot housebreak it. It tries to attack people. I just don't know what to do with it.'" This was an actual quote about a Serval, but we have had hundreds of similar letters about every kind of exotic cat.

We do not breed, sell nor trade cats. We have neutered all of our male cats or house them separately to ensure no accidents. We have successfully managed more than 100 exotic cats with no accidents for a decade or more. The horrible sounds you hear playing is the sound of a cougar in heat and they stay in heat year round.

Below are some zoos and pseudo sanctuaries in Florida. These places breed and sell while lying to the public and saying they are doing it for conservation. The file is large, so you may have to wait a bit for it to load fully and then hit play again. These are the ones that are open to the public. Many are much worse, but do not allow the public in to film.

Lots of places claim to be breeding cats to save them from extinction when in fact they are not involved in any real conservation effort and rather are justifying their breeding to have babies who will bring in paying visitors and worse yet to sell. Many people contact us each week saying they want to start a captive breeding program to save the cats from extinction, but the only viable programs currently being operated in such a manner as to accommodate this goal are being run by accredited zoos who will not work with the private sector. Unless you can trace your cat's pedigree all the way back to the wild and you have been accepted into the Species Survival Plan for that specific breed, you will not be aiding conservation, but rather will be contributing to the over abundance of unwanted animals.

All of the cats in the above video are hand raised "pets" doing what comes natural as they mature. You may have to click twice to start the video.

Please do not ask us to sell you a kitten, nor to refer you to a broker, dealer or breeder. These animals do not make good pets and if you have the experience and expertise to care for one for the rest of it's life, then you should be donating your time to caring for the hundreds of unwanted ones who have ended up in real sanctuaries. Real sanctuaries do not breed.

We receive requests every week from people who are looking for some place to take their "pet" cat. Each year we have to turn away more than 100 such "pets". These unwitting owners have discovered that all exotic cats, both male and female, neutered or not, spray and bite when they reach sexual maturity. (They don't just spray a little either. We are talking about buckets of the foulest smelling urine, all over your house, your things and you. If you don't believe me, watch this clip of a neutered lion HERE) Moving them out to the yard means your neighbors will soon be complaining that your place smells like a zoo. By the time they find us they have discovered that the zoos do not want their animals, that no one is willing to buy them and that they can't even give them away. Refuges are usually full to capacity and cannot take in another hungry mouth to feed. All too often, these "pets" are turned out to fend for themselves, where they surely die of starvation or are euthanized.

There is no reason to try and make a pet of any wild animal. Both of you will suffer.


Loving Mother and Her Affection

In life, we generally come across various forms of relationships like Father-son, husband-wife, love, friendship etc but the most dearest and hearty relation of all is of a mother and her child relationship. The bond of mother and child is purest and holy. Mother is next to GOD. She is the Gem who knows everything. A warm and affectionate touch of mother will give you immense pleasure and you will feel as you are in heaven.

The relationship of a mother and a child carries deep emotions and feelings within it and it is always nurtured by love, affection and care. Mother is the one who gives birth to the child, bought him up, support him when he need someone the most, guide him in taking right decisions, stand against crowd and favors his child if he is right, always stands behind her in his thick and thin, biggest sharer, suffer a lot of pain from the time of birth of a child till he become adult but never expect anything in return. Whenever you feel sad and tensed, she will embrace you and all your worries will come to an end.

The most respectful and adorable person on this earth is "Mother" Even if you will fight with her, argue with her, pour you anger on her; she will forgive you for everything with a gentle smile on her face and without thinking for a second. Is there any relationship better than this relation where there is no ego, no fears, no hard feelings, just the feeling of love and affection? In today's generation people get so much busy in their lives that they hardly find time for their mother, they don't even remember the things she has done for them to make their life smooth and comfortable. A person should always remember the efforts made by the mother for his betterment and should give utmost respect and care to his mother, as she really deserves it. He should let her mother know what she mean to him and she will be the most happiest person on this whole world.

We celebrate mother's day once in a year but tell me, do we need any special day to show our gratitude to our mother who has devoted and sacrifice her whole life for us. If should make her feel that she means world to us each day that will be true gift to her.

If you really want to express your love to your mother, don't wait for long now and don't hesitate, go to her and give a hug and tell her "Mother you are next to GOD, thanks for everything you have done for me. You are the best person on this whole earth and I really mean it, you have serve your whole life for us and you deserve the best of everything. I love you mother"

You can also express your feelings to your mother in some different way. You can take the help of poems and quotes easily available on Internet, which will help you in expressing your feelings in better way. Dedicate the poems to your mother and show your respect, affection and gratitude to her and you will see she will keep on smiling.


A Prayer for the People of Japan

Good and gracious God,

Our words fail...
they fail to adequately describe the events in Japan.
They fail to express the depth of our sympathy.
They fail to encapsulate the immensity of the tragedy.
They fail to contain the breadth of our emotions.
They fail to convey the commiseration in our souls.

Yet, we fling these deficient vessels toward you.
Because we must.

We fling our words of concern, of care, of compassion
towards you,
even though they, at times, feel remarkably inefficient -
even though they, at times, are bumbling and reckless -
even though they, at times, are a poor attempt
to divulge the sorrows of our very souls.

We fling them because we must.
We fling them because we know that you
do not measure the worthiness of the vessel,
but look to the sincerity of the messenger.

So, we groan our prayer.
We groan for the people of Japan,
and all the people of the Pacific,
faced with this tragedy.
We groan from the depths of our souls,
bypassing the words that fail us
and reaching into the language of our spirits.

Hear our prayers, our God.
Inspire us to be a part of your response to this tragedy.
Comfort us and those effected
in the knowledge that,
through your people,
and in relationship with you,
you can weave something beautiful
out of the tattered mess we have before us.

Grant peace to those who have passed from this life,
comfort to those they have left behind,
strength to those who will be recovering from this for years to come,
and wisdom to the leaders
whose responsibility it will be to guide their people back from the brink of disaster.

May we trust in the new life
of which this time of year brings.
May we trust in the renewal of spirit
to which Easter points.
Remind us that, at the core of your grace,
is the knowledge that death and destruction,
will never prevail.
You bring new life where once there was none,
hope where it has been lost,
and peace in the midst of turmoil.

Let us never forget,
that we, your people,
are part of your solution.

Let us never forget
when we respond
to form partnerships,
not dictatorships.

Let us recognize and honor
the dignity of the people
of Japan.



Friday, March 25, 2011

Unsecured Loans – Collateral Free Loans

Are you a citizen of UK who needs fiscal support to make your plans and desires come true? Do you need cash but do not know which loans to opt for? In this case, we bring to you unsecured loans which are monetary back ups which transfer ample amount of cash to your account for you to deal with all your financial causes without making you face any kind of financial crunch.

The amount which can be accessed through unsecured loans ranges within the limits of £1000 – £25, 000. This borrowed amount needs to be paid back within a time span of 1 – 10 years. Due to the collateral free cash being provided for such an extended span of time, the rate of interest charged on these advances is quiet high.

To make these loans further accessible to common man, the procedure of credit verification is avoided. This makes these loans accessible to people having a good as well as bad credit standing. To make the proceedings move much faster, documentation and paperwork is also cut down on.

There is a certain criterion of eligibility that one needs to follow to be eligible to apply for unsecured loan. The person applying should be a resident of UK. He should be a minimum of 18 years of age. He should be working for a recognized institute which pays him a fixed monthly salary. For the ordered funds to be transferred to his account, he needs to have a bank account under his possession.

Instead of applying for these loan schemes through the online procedure, an individual can order for them through the internet. One is just needed to fill and submit the online forms after which the desired amount is transferred to ones account within 24 working hours.


The Top Six "Must-Haves" For An Ultimate Home Game Room

Whether you already have a home game room or you're thinking of adding one to your home there are some "essential things" you'll need to make your game room "Ultimate". It's true you may not need every single one of these items or you may not have the time, space or money to add every single one. But if you do have the time, space and or money and want an "Ultimate" Home Game Room then check out the top 6 items (in order of importance) that you'll need for your game room to achieve ultimate "game room friendly" status.

#1 - Game Table

Since you're creating a home game room the number one must-have is the game table. Now which game table or tables you have is of course a personal choice. The two best game tables for home game rooms are billiard tables and shuffleboard tables. They're the best because of multi-player use, the skill of the game and the fun competition each one brings to your home.

If your game room is big enough it's always fun to have a combination of two different game tables. The best combo idea would be to have a billiard or shuffleboard table plus either an air hockey, foosball or ping-pong table. They say "Variety Is The Spice Of Life" and that is especially true for a home game room.

#2 - Three More Great Games

The second must-haves are more great games. Again this is a home game room and to be "Ultimate" you'll need at least three more great games. These are games that will compliment your table games and add even more variety. The types of games that fit into this category are: arcade games, indoor basketball games, bowling games, crane games, dart games, pinball machines, football games, golf games, pachinko/pachislo games and slot machines.

There are other games you could add but this is a good list to get you started on the right track to creating a fun family game room. These three additional great games are just enough to keep everyone happy. Any less and you could lose that ultimate status, any more and your home game room could become cluttered. A home game room that's cluttered with games will lose its uniqueness!

#3 - Jukebox

So now that you have the games and everyone is having a blast you'll want to add some music. The best way to add music is with a jukebox. Stereo systems are good also but they don't give you that "Ultimate" game room look and feel that a jukebox does.

Don't worry there is a large assortment of jukeboxes available. Personally I prefer a jukebox from the 1940s. The old songs from the 1920s-1940s are great for all ages and they're a nice change from the norm. There are some really catchy tunes from those years!

But if you're not an oldies fan then there are other jukeboxes, like the ones that play 45rpm records. If those are still too old for you then a CD jukebox will do the trick. Some hold a hundred CDs giving you the ability to add a large assortment of music that would be perfect for any occasion. Also the jukeboxes look vintage 1940-ish. Finally if you love technology there are digital jukeboxes. They don't look so much like a traditional jukebox but you can download music right to them using various methods like from a home computer.

# 4 - Game Room TV

The fourth item you'll need is a Game Room TV. It's great to have a jukebox and music but when the big game is on New Year's Day you'll want your Game Room TV. Whether it's a 13inch TV attached to your ceiling or wall or a large plasma TV doesn't matter. It's having the TV that bumps your game room up to the "Ultimate" level.

Now one of the best TVs to have in a home game room if you have the room is the projector TV with a movie screen. Having one of those is like having your own mini theatre in your home and they're great for watching sports. It's probably not a good idea to use one of these TVs for everyday use as the projector bulbs have a limited lifetime. You can however buy a replacement bulb but they can get expensive on some models. The bulbs usually last around 3000 hours and that is plenty for home game room use.

#5 - Refrigerator

The fifth must-have is the refrigerator. The reason being that if you're creating an ultimate game room then you're most likely planning on having parties with family and friends. A refrigerator that holds a couple cases of your favorite drink is perfect. You don't need something large and fancy.

The reason these are good is that you won't have everyone trouncing into your kitchen all day and night to get a drink. Also it helps keep the party in your game room not to mention your kitchen floors clean. On top of that they're great for storing extra food for everyday use if your main refrigerator if full.

#6 - Game Room Bathroom

The last must-have item on our list is a Game Room Bathroom. Like the refrigerator above it keeps the foot traffic to a minimum throughout the house if you have a bathroom in your game room. Plus adding that additional bathroom to your home is great if you have parties because someone always needs to "go" when your one bathroom is occupied.

Besides the added benefit during parties, adding another bathroom to a home usually increases a homes value. That is always a good thing and it's just another reason why a bathroom in the game room is the number six must-have item.

There are many more items that can be added to your home game room. For example neon signs, clocks, pictures, posters, pub lights and so on. But this is a list of must-haves to push your game room up to the ultimate level.

Of course not everyone has the room or the money to add a bathroom to the game room. Or has the space to add so many different games. That's ok because game rooms aren't about having the biggest and best things. They're about having fun with family and friends. Also creating the "Ultimate Game Room" isn't done overnight. It takes time and that is part of the fun in bringing your game room to life. Set a budget if you need to and take as much time as you like in adding your favorite game room items. In the meantime have fun using your game room with family and friends as much as possible. And never forget that "Families That Play Together, Stay Together".


Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Loans for USA- Credit especially meant for USA citizens

All the citizens in USA want money at each step of life. Even the monthly forfeit check is not ample for fulfilling the day to day needs. There are some expenses which yield up in middle of the month and for fulfilling those needs you involve money. For all the daily needs of finances one can apply for the loans for usa where you get instant cash without any credit check and is granted within a few hours. These credits help you to meet all your financial expenses without much time consumption.

These credits are short term in nature. These loans are provided to the borrower without any credit check for his financial status. By applying for the loan the borrower can overcome his small financial needs such as paying the house rent, paying the pending bills, sending your vehicle for servicing and so on. The amount which is granted in this finance is ample to satisfy various needs.

The borrower has to see that the amount is repaid on the given period of time to avoid late fee. In other words the borrower can utilize loans for UK within a given period of time and the repayment is a must. The borrower has to repay the loan on maturity or else he will have to pay a penalty as a late repayment fee. The borrower has to follow an eligibility condition for availing this finance. When all the conditions are followed the borrower can reward these finances. The terms which are laid down are simple and do not involve much hassle. The appliance manner is very effortless, the borrower can surf the net, apply for the loan just by filling in the online appliance form and giving his necessary and correct information. After confirming the information true the lender sanctions the loan amount within 24 hours and the funds get transferred in your account.

Loans for usa are instant cash for your financial desires in tragedy where you are vacant with the funds without any credit check and within a very short extent of time. You can also get reward by these funds just by applying through online modes.

Why Do Teenagers Drink Alcohol?

Why do teenagers drink alcohol? And what do they find so good about it?

Teenagers, like adults, drink alcohol for many different reasons, although some of them are different for teens. Your question is on teens and so I'll restrict my answer to that population.

Teens are more likely to start experimenting with drinking if they have parents who drink, if they have friends who are also drinking, and if their parents don't give them clear messages about not drinking outside the house (if they are allowed to drink some wine with dinner, for instance).

Also, alcohol is a powerful drug and changes how you feel. Some of the initial sensations at lower blood alcohol levels are pleasant and it is this sensation that many teens, as well as adults, seek.

Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. So if you're tense or uptight, drinking some alcohol will, at least initially, reduce some of that tension and help you "chill out."

There are many other reasons why teens drink but to answer in depth would take an entire book. If you're concerned about some of your friends' drinking, consider talking with an adult in whom you can confide.

Also, if you yourself are a teen, consider attending Ala-teen. It is a 12-step group for teenagers who are concerned about other's drinking. They have a lot of literature and discussions about the dynamics of drinking and what you can do to help yourself as well as the drinker.

Whatever you do, don't drink anything and drive. The risk of being in a fatal crash is much higher at much lower blood alcohol concentrations (BACs) for drivers under 21 years of age. Here's a graph that shows the risk by age and BACs).

Significant relationships were found between young people's drinking behaviors and perceptions of risk and protective factors in the family environment. Parental monitoring was strongly associated with family closeness and appeared to form one part of a parenting style of more general communication and regulation of children's behavior.

Findings support the need for alcohol misuse prevention interventions which address risk and protective factors within the family setting. Timing of such prevention work should be related both to the development of family relationships and the age at which young people begin drinking alcohol.


Friday, March 18, 2011

Plastic Surgery Loans- Financial Cost for Superficial Surgeries!

In todays world there is too much scope for glamor and beauty. If you aspire to enter into modeling then you need to have excellent looks. They are the basic essentials. However in general many of us are not happy with the way we look, our personality. And so we plan to have a make over. You might think that this indeed is a costly affair, but you need not worry as plastic surgery loans brings you assistance at really affordable prices.

They are introduced to help you accomplish your desires. The applicant can also undertake this advance in cases where you have a disfigurement and intend to expel it forever. Thus, these investments lend a hand to alter your requirements without any obstacles. Nevertheless, to simplify it even more, these amounts are offered in two forms, that is, with or without the need of pledging guarantee.

With cosmetic surgery loans the candidate can easily get the advances of his/her choice. You get secured advances at really cheap and affordable rates. Here it is essential for the applicant to pledge some form of security. The unsecured format is a type where the borrower is not asked to hand over any collateral against the credit amount.

Bad creditors may also have the desire to change the way they look. However having a bad credit situation should not stop you to apply for this credit. It stands very important to prove your repaying ability to the lender to prove your capacity.

The online application is a better advised option to avail this finance. This is because here you have nothing to worry about. You get detailed information on the various drawbacks and the benefits of plastic surgery loans. Moreover you can choose amongst your lenders. Thus, the internet is an important factor here.

Plastic surgery loans finance the cost of a superficial surgical procedures as well as the medical treatment of the borrower. They are long term in nature. The online format is a more expedient option.

Will plain cigarette packaging help deter smoking?

U.K. officials have come up with a new proposition they say may help deter smoking: make cigarette packaging plain. Starting next year, government authorities in the U.K. will require cigarette manufacturers to block cigarette displays in stores to protect children. But now they are considering asking manufacturers to make cigarette boxes a simple brown or gray color in order to eliminate the glitz factor that attracts young people to smoke.

"The evidence is clear that packaging helps to recruit smokers, so it makes sense to consider having less attractive packaging," explained Health Secretary Andrew Lansley to BBC News. "It's wrong that children are being attracted to smoke by glitzy designs on packets."

Advocates of the plain labeling idea say that cigarette companies rely on packaging to lure in people of all persuasions to smoke. Some cigarette packets evoke feelings of masculinity, while others appear more feminine. Certain brands are even colored and designed in such a way as to give the appearance that they are healthier than other brands, even though this is not the case.

Recently, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) made some proposals of its own concerning cigarette packaging. The agency developed 36 highly graphic warning labels for cigarette boxes that would take up half the boxes. The graphics include pictures of a corpse in a coffin, a body in a morgue, and a person smoking through a tracheotomy, which is a small breathing hole cut in the neck to allow someone with damaged lungs to breathe.

Opponents of the proposition say that cigarette packaging does not play a role in deterring smoking, and that it will do little to change smoking patterns.

Resource: Naturalnews.Com

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Leading article: Juvenile crime and punishment

You can tell a lot about a society by the way it treats its children. In England and Wales the law says that a child is not capable of committing a criminal offense until they reach the age of 10. Before Labour came to power in 1997, there was a long-established legal presumption that a child under the age of 14 did not know the difference between right and wrong. This kept the prosecution of young people within sensible bounds, because a court had to be satisfied that it was in the interests of justice to convict the child.

Under the Crime and Disorder Act of 1998 this safeguard was swept away as the Government embarked on its mission to shift the balance of the criminal justice system in favour of the victim. But it is Britain's children who have become the unintended victims of this change. The number of young people dealt with in the criminal courts has risen exponentially - from 79,092 in 1997 to 96,188 in 2004.

And these are not young people randomly drawn from society, but children brought up in the most deprived circumstances, many from broken - or non-existent - homes. Now, the Centre for Crime and Justice Studies has argued for another rethink of our approach to the prosecution and punishment of children. It called for the age of criminal responsibility to be raised from 10 to 14 and for an end to a system of "cops, courts and corrections".

Such a reform would have the virtue of bringing us in line with our European partners, including France and Germany. In Italy, a country whose love for its children is internationally celebrated, the age of criminal responsibility is 15. It is also worth noting that in all these countries the rates of criminal conviction for young people are much lower than they are in Britain.

More to the point, a change of approach now might save a whole generation from careers in crime. Any reform, though, would need to be adequately supported by funds, and by alternative proceedings that addressed a child's educational, social welfare and mental health needs. Not for the first time, a government initiative has turned out to have adverse consequences that might have been foreseen, had more thought been given to the less obvious effects. Reducing the age of criminal responsibility has turned out to be just another legislative measure that makes our children old before their time.

Resource: Independent.Co.Uk

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction.

I’ve discovered, in the 35 years that I’ve been counseling couples, 7 choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.


This is the most important choice you can make to improve your relationship. This means that you learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. This means that instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure, you learn how to do this for yourself through your own thoughts and actions. This means learning to treat yourself with kindness, caring, compassion, and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Self-judgment will always make you feel unhappy and insecure, no matter how wonderfully your partner is treating you.

For example, instead of getting angry at your partner for your feelings of abandonment when he or she is late, preoccupied and not listening to you, not turned on sexually, and so on, you would explore your own feelings of abandonment and discover how you might be abandoning yourself.

When you learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. Since blaming one’s partner for one’s own unhappiness is the number one cause of relationship problems, learning how to take loving care of yourself is vital to a good relationship.


Treat others the way you want to be treated. This is the essence of a truly spiritual life. We all yearn to be treated lovingly – with kindness, compassion, understanding, and acceptance. We need to treat ourselves this way, and we need to treat our partner and others this way. Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating another with kindness brings kindness in return. If your partner is consistently angry, judgmental, uncaring and unkind, then you need to focus on what would be loving to yourself rather than reverting to anger, blame, judgment, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. Kindness to others does not mean sacrificing yourself. Always remember that taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming others is the most important thing you can do. If you are consistently kind to yourself and your partner, and your partner is consistently angry, blaming, withdrawn and unavailable, then you either have to accept a distant relationship, or you need to leave the relationship. You cannot make your partner change – you can only change yourself.


When conflict occurs, you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. We’ve all learning many overt and subtle ways of trying to control others into behaving the way we want: anger, blame, judgment, niceness, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal of love, explaining, teaching, defending, lying, denying, and so on. All the ways we try to control create even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship.

For example, most people have two major fears that become activated in relationships: the fear of abandonment – of losing the other - and the fear of engulfment – of losing oneself. When these fears get activated, most people immediately protect themselves against these fears with their controlling behavior. But if you chose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fear would eventually heal. This is how we grow emotionally and spiritually – by learning instead of controlling.


When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. Then, especially after getting married, they get busy. Relationships need time to thrive. It is vitally important to set aside specific times to be together – to talk, play, make love. Intimacy cannot be maintained without time together.


Positive energy flows between two people when there is an “attitude of gratitude.” Constant complaints creates a heavy, negative energy, which is not fun to be around. Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Complaints create stress, while gratitude creates inner peace, so gratitude creates not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.


We all know that “work without play makes Jack a dull boy.” Work without play makes for dull relationships as well. Relationships flourish when people laugh together, play together, and when humor is a part of everyday life. Stop taking everything so seriously and learn to see the funny side of life. Intimacy flourishes when there is lightness of being, not when everything is heavy.


A wonderful way of creating intimacy is to do service projects together. Giving to others fills the heart and creates deep satisfaction in the soul. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life.

If you and your partner agree to these 7 choices, you will be amazed at the improvement in your relationship!

Resource: Selfgrowth.Com

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Do the houses we imagine reflect who we are?

Imagine if you could have any house you wanted. Money is no object. You can place the house anywhere in the world (or off it) and you can build the house from any materials you wish.

What would that house look like? What would be the color and texture of the walls, the shape of the rooms, the quality of the light?

Everything in the unconscious seeks outward manifestation...
- Carl Jung

A Child's Dream House
When I was a child, I dreamed of a house shaped like a doughnut. Rooms would be arranged in a ring around a central courtyard, and the courtyard would have a glass roof, a steamy climate, and exotic tropical birds. All windows in this house would look inward at the courtyard. No windows would look outward at the exterior world. This was an introverted, perhaps egotistical, house.

As I aged, my dream house reshaped itself. Instead of an inner courtyard, it developed sociable porches and big bay windows. The house of my dreams reflected who I was becoming.

Carl Jung's Dream House
For the psychologist Carl Jung, building a house was a symbol of building a self. In his autobiographical Memories, Dreams, Reflections, Jung described the gradual evolution of his home on Lake Zurich. Jung spent more than thirty years building this castle-like structure, and he believed that the towers and annexes represented his psyche.

Can we know more about who we are by looking at where we live?
- Clare Cooper Marcus

Psychology and Your Home
Clare Cooper Marcus, a Professor of Architecture at the University of California in Berkeley, has written extensively about the relationship between dwellings and the people who occupy them. Her book House as a Mirror of Self explores the meaning of "Home" as a place of self-expression, as a place of nurturance, and as a place of sociability. Marcus spent years looking at people's drawings of memorable childhood places, and her book draws on Jungian concepts of the collective unconscious and archetypes.

If the houses we live in are so significant, what about the houses we imagine? What do our wishes say about who we are?

Resource: Architecture.About.Com

Friday, March 11, 2011

Water Soluble Vitamins In Your Food

If you want to keep your body strong and as healthy as possible, you need to feed your body vitamins. And this is especially true for water soluble vitamins which are not stored in the body. This means that they must be replenished every day through the foods that we eat.

All soluble vitamins are important,to a degree. But, without a doubt, two of the most valuable forms of water soluble vitamins are B and C. In fact, these vitamins are so important to the functioning of the human body that many popular foods such as breakfast cereals and breads are fortified with it.

One of the most important water soluble vitamins is Vitamin B
. Want to avoid anemia? If so, make sure that you get enough Vitamin B in your diet. This vitamin is also important in helping the essential processes of the body to function well. If you want to have good skin, good eyesight, and calm nerves, getting a good dose of vitamin B in your daily meals is a good start. if you want to naturally increase your vitamin B levels, good foods to eat are organ meats such as liver, meats such as beef and fish, and dairy products like milk, eggs, and cheese.

One of the strongest vitamins in our arsenal for fighting free radicals is Vitamin C. It is one of our stronger antioxidants. It is essential in helping to hold the cells of the body together and keeping them healthy from disease and illness. It is also important if you want to avoid losing your teeth because of gum disease.

You can find Vitamin C in a large variety of food products. Many people mistakenly associate it with only citrus fruits such as orange juice and lemons. But, in actuality, it is actually found in most of the unprocessed foods that we eat such as eggs, beef, chickens, and so on. If you eat healthy foods and avoid the fast foods, supplements should not be necessary. You should be able to get all of the vitamin C that you need in your everyday meals.

Anyway, due to the fact that both of these vitamins are water soluble, they are very much likely to be lost in foods through popular methods of processing and storing them such as freezing and canning. For example many canned vegetables such as beans and peas are stored in water. Some of the vitamins are washed away when they are cooked in the plant.

And over the weeks or months while they sit on the store shelves, more vitamins seep into the canned water in which they are stored. And even more are lost when you heat them for a meal. In other words, unless you are eating most of the liquid with your canned vegetables, you are not really getting the amount of vitamins that you think you are.

Sometimes, depending on where you live, it can be hard to find fresh vegetables. If so, but you still want good nutrition, buying frozen ones are the next best way to buy them.

Resource: Articlesbase.Com

Unsecured Loans Bad Credit - Overcome The Obstacles

Having a bad credit is an obstacle to way in to the credit facilities and its benefits. The conditions on which the bank offers the credit facility to the people mainly includes that the person has a good credit status. And if one lacks to fulfill these conditions he or she is deprived of the credit. This people have to undergo many problems in financial adversities. But all this is now over.

A bad credit borrower can also apply for the credit facility which is in the form of unsecured loans bad credit facility. This credit facility is one which will support all the bad credit holders with an amount that can be considerably used for the fulfillment of all the needs and requirements. Maybe it of household nature or the needs of educational or even occasional and external the amount can be used to the fullest for all the requirements. One can fully rely on this credit even in times of emergency as the loans amount is sanctioned within less time.

Unsecured personal loans for bad credit does not necessitate that the borrower places any kind of collaterals. Therefore one is not needed that that take any tension regarding their possessions. But one is needed that they assure the lender company that they will make the reimbursements of the loans amount availed on time without making any delays. One can also specify the alternative source for this purpose.

To avail this credit facility one can also make use of the online means. This means is well reliable as there are no hassles or aggravate procedures to be dealt with. Only a straightforward form is to be filled by the applicant with all the necessary details and submitted. The confirmations will be done by the lenders and the loan amount will directly be transferred to the bank account.